I Pledge My Allegiance

I'm not a soccer fan, but I am a sports fan.  Even though I don't follow any particular team, I can chip myself out of hibernation to root for somebody in that playoff, quarter final, or championship game.

Now we are in the midst of the FIFA World Cup.  Americans are famous for their ignorance of the world's favorite sport, even to the extent that we have a different name for it.  Nevertheless, like many big sporting events, I am following.

With international events, I tend to root for (1) the Americans, (2) the Italians (I do have a red passport in addition to my blue one), and (3) the underdogs.  With soccer, it isn't hard to root for the Italians since they win the World Cup every few years.  Sometimes I'm embarrassed by their theatrics, but then again, we wouldn't be Italians if we didn't go over the top.

This year, the Americans and Italians were eliminated early.  I was disappointed for the Americans, mostly because this means that American interest in the World Cup is going to drop significantly now.  But also, I was surprised by the Italians.  What happened to those guys?  They won last time.  I can only conclude that in their cockiness, they forgot how to to play soccer.

Anyway, now as we push through each round of the tournament, I am forced to change my allegiances frequently, especially since the teams I'm rooting for keep losing.

My first rule is to root for the Europeans, unless they are the Germans.  One look at my red passport shows over a dozen languages for the  European Union--it's not hard to pick one.  I just can't bring myself to back the Germans, though.  They are the absolute opposite of Italians.  No emotion, just cold, hard precision.   I'm especially troubled when I look at the German team, which plays with technical perfection.  They look like little soccer machines.  Whatever they decide to do, those Germans are very good at it.

I tend to root against the South Americans, because they are the most successful winners of the World Cup over time.  Here I invoke rule #3--root for the underdogs, and root against the favorites.  But if it's a South American country against the Germans--I'll go with South America.  And if two South American countries play each other--I'll root for the better team, more likely to beat the Germans.

If an Asian or African country is playing, I cross my fingers for those guys (unless they're playing Americans or Italians).  So--Uraguay vs. South Korea?  I rooted for South Korea (they lost).   Japan vs. Paraguay?  I rooted for Japan, and of course they lost.

In the quarter finals, three of the matches are a European team vs. a South American team.  Whereas previously I had rooted against Ghana, now I am rooting for them--to beat the Uruguay team and also keep an African team in the tournament.

Confused yet?  I am.  Every day my allegiances change as the teams I root for get eliminated from the World Cup tournament.  I can't take my likes and dislikes too seriously.  However, I worry that the final game will be Brazil vs. Germany.  Brazil is the absolute opposite of underdog, and Germany is, well, it's Germany.  I suppose I should add a fourth rule to my allegiance policy--anyone but Germany.

Maybe I should pick my teams next time by the color of the flag.  Does anyone have purple?

Bobby Bacala, Save Some for Me

I totally understand Bobby Bacala.

Bobby Bacala is one of Tony Soprano’s men in the Italian gangster show, The Sopranos. In one episode, Bobby Bacala’s wife is killed in a car accident. Mourning her death, he refuses to eat the last batch of baked ziti that she made. Only an Italian could understand such dedication to food.

I thought about Bobby Bacala when my refrigerator broke several days ago. It didn’t exactly break, but it stopped cooling consistently (that pesky light still goes on, though). Everything in my freezer melted when I was away at school. By the evening, everything was back to its icy state.

Having an on-again, off-again refrigerator just won’t cut it, especially with summer upon us. So I dumped the rotting food in the fridge section and saved some of the items in the frozen section, hoping that the fridge would miraculously decide to work again permanently. It hasn’t.

Desperate to have some fresh food in the house until I get the fridge fixed, I borrowed an ice chest to house a few perishables like milk and eggs. I figured that would give me a little time until I get the fridge repaired. As I was in the market buying what few items would fit in the ice chest, I got a call from Marjorie.

She was so excited—Rebecca is back for the summer from college, and she brought her dorm refrigerator with her—and did I want to borrow it?

Of course I wanted to borrow it! With the extra room, I added a few more luxury perishables to my shopping list, including a precious brick of Tillamook cheddar. My life was coming back to normal.

For the past few days, I’ve been carefully filling that little fridge with food, and unceremoniously throwing out bad food from the broken fridge. It feels good—making things simpler, smaller, and reducing my carbon footprint. I could live like this in a wonderfully minimalistic way. Maybe I'll even use that large refrigerator space for bookshelves.

It wasn’t until today, though, that I decided to completely give up on the old one. Today is trash day, so I dumped everything into the stinky smelly trash bin. But I paused when I got to the freezer. Inside the freezer is my most cherished possession: the last batch of spaghetti sauce that my mom ever made.

Occasionally she would give me some of her sauce to freeze for a time when I was too tired to cook. There is nothing in this world that tastes like her spaghetti sauce. Over the years, I’ve learned to make it myself, but it doesn’t have that loving, mom touch. Anyway, she always dated the food she gave us, and this one was dated February 9, 1999. She died four months later, before I had ever used the sauce.

I’ve kept that sauce in my freezer all these years. Like Bobby Bacala, I refuse to give up on the love for that person I have cherished more than anyone. The sauce is probably frozen down to a tiny cube of red ice, but even then, I know it has a piece of my mom. It has her love and her caring and her years of experience of Italian cooking. If nothing else, it has DNA from her saliva when she tasted it. She is really inside that container. Whatever it has, it is the most important material thing my mom left me.

I paused at the freezer as I held this container of spaghetti sauce, housed in an old Cool Whip tub. Like everything else in the freezer, it had melted. Maybe this is a sign. It’s June, after all—the month of my mom’s birthday, and the month of her death. Maybe it’s time to give up the spaghetti sauce. It’s just the physical form of a memory, and I’ll always have that memory. Maybe it’s time to let go.

Feeling a little melancholy, I brought that tub of my mom’s last batch of spaghetti sauce over to the tiny refrigerator that has lived in Rebecca’s freshman dorm room all year. I opened the door, and I squeezed that tub into the teeny tiny freezer compartment. It fits perfectly next to the miniature ice cube tray.

Thank you, Marjorie, for the freezer--like a super hero, you always come through with exactly what I need. My mom is still around, living in Rebecca's fridge. The month of June is kind of tough, so I'm grateful that you have helped me hang on to her a little longer.

Ultimately, Bobby Bacala acquiesced to family pressure to serve his wife's last dish of pasta. I haven't reached that point, but Bobby and I certainly agree on one thing: you can hold onto that special someone as long as they fit in your freezer.

What Big Teeth You Have

Have you ever had a toothache? The name itself is a misnomer; "toothache" sounds so mild, almost benign. One single tooth with a little pain. What's the prob? It's just a little pain in one single tooth. Come on, I have 32 teeth in my mouth; how much can one tooth hurt?

Oooouuuuuccccchhhh.

Let's be honest; it's not a toothache. It's an explosion of pain on a regional scale.

The "toothache" started Wednesday night. You'd think I'd head to the dentist on Thursday. No, that would have been much too smart. I had other plans. Thursday we drove to Santa Cruz to move Rebecca out of her dorm, and Friday we drove home. Then came the weekend. I called the dentist today (Monday), who can't see me until tomorrow. So we're talking about 5+ days with my friend the toothache.

Sometimes the pain is pretty mild; just a sensation that makes my tongue want to explore the area and see what's going on. Hmm, if I poke my tongue on this tooth, will it hurt? How about if I touch the gum over in the corner? Will that hurt? Yup, sure does! Other times It's a more serious ache. And then throughout the day, there are moments of excruciating pain. The sensation spreads to the whole right side of my mouth, then up the side of my face and into my right ear. Those are the moments when all I can think about is the Pain. Pain. Pain. Pain. And the desire for the pain to stop.

Actually, it's all pretty interesting. It makes me think about people who live in chronic pain. How do they ever feel cheerful? How do they function, be productive, enjoy life?

Man, I am such a wimp. I sit grumpily on the couch and feel sorry for myself. I growl at anyone who talks to me. I rub my gums with my finger. I swallow some Advil and wait for the pain to ebb. And eventually, it does.

So how are you feeling?

In Search of . . .

Here's the problem with being open-minded: a constant state of confusion. Well, maybe it's the combination of an open mind and only sporadic bits of information about world events. I'll give you some examples.

Arizona passed a law recently regarding illegal immigrants. Now I'm perfectly clear about how I feel about the law--I think it's a bad law. I think when we base our actions on hatred and fear, we're going to make some very bad decisions. Research has shown that undocumented workers actually contribute as much or more to the communities in which they live as compared to the resources they use. So what am I confused about? Boycotting Arizona (is that anything like Raising Arizona?). On the one hand, I think I get it. Let's cut off our financial and other dealings with the state of Arizona as a way of protesting this asinine, hateful law. Would a boycott be effective? Is there a better way to protest the law? Let's bring this question to a place near and dear to my heart: Dodger Stadium. The Arizona Diamondbacks are playing at Dodger Stadium this week. There were protesters at the stadium. So are the protesters expecting that the Dodgers would refuse to play the Diamondbacks? I'm thinking, that doesn't make sense. But I don't know how to articulate my thoughts in a coherent way.

Okay, here's a more complex issue, and one that I am woefully ignorant about. A flotilla (is that the right word?) of boats with humanitarian aid approached a blockade set up by Israel, to try to get aid to Palestinians in the West Bank. Israeli soldiers boarded the boats and there were violent altercations. The two sides tell pretty different stories about what exactly happened. The world of public opinion is really pissed at Israel. I see smart and educated friends on Facebook talk about how horrible Israel's actions were. But then, I've also heard a spokesperson from Israel discuss the situation. He said that the blockade is set up to prevent weapons from getting to terrorists. He said that Israel told the group trying to deliver aid that they COULD deliver the aid, but not by breaking through the blockade but by working with the Israelis. And you know what, I believe him. Maybe I'm being naive, but it makes sense to me that they would allow the aid, as long as they controlled what and how the aid was brought into their country. And I do think Israel has a right to protect itself. I think the protesters chose, in an act of civil disobedience. to try to break through the blockade to show that they believed that the blockade was wrong. I think that they had a right to perform this act of civil disobedience. But I also think that their protest and resulting PR was more important to them than actually getting the humanitarian aid to the people in need. That's their right, but it does mean that Israel isn't as big of a monster as so many seem to be saying.

But then, I really only have the most surface understanding of what's going on in the region. So I am confused, and don't feel that I know enough to even have an opinion. It's like, I want someone who is VERY knowledgeable and not emotionally involved or biased in any way to explain the situation to me, with all of the history, current events, and nuances. Oh my God, I know what I need. I need someone logical. Someone brilliant. Someone who can help me grasp the complexities. I need you Spock!